Carol the Coach: Change

People want strategies to change things about their behavior but many times they don’t want to do the things that are necessary to bring about change.  The dilemma is that they are not ready to make the personal alterations in their lives that will support results.

 When clients come in and describe their situations, I have a series of questions that I ask to remind them that the " desired strategies" are actually behavioral changes that they will need to implement to insure life-long success

  Does this sound like you? If so, read on and assess your willingness to do the work.

1.  Are you really ready to change?

2.  Are you willing to do what it takes to change? 

3.  What can you do to become personally responsible for your change?

 To determine your willingness requires some introspection. I would ask that you to spend at least an hour pondering the question, "Am I really ready to change?"  If you can answer with a resounding “Yes” then you need to assess are you willing to do “the hard stuff” to effect change?

 Unfortunately, about 60% of the people who come in for an initial consultation want to change, but they are not willing to do what it takes to change.  They are hoping for painless strategies that will make it easier to change. The problem is that change is rarely easy or painless. It is a lot of hard work!

  Did you know that it will increase the likelihood of success by at least 80% if clients who want to lose weight, will write down everything they eat in a food journal?  Unfortunately, many clients aren't willing to make tough behavioral changes that require discipline.  They want an easier formula to make weight loss happen.   Unfortunately, goal-setting is rarely easy.

 I recently met with a woman who was easily frustrated and reported having to deal with ongoing stress.  I explained that I could teach her skills like deep breathing and progressive relaxation to manage her stress.  In a disheartened tone she stated "I want you to help me alleviate the stress.  I don't want to learn how to manage it! She was clearly not ready to change.

Lastly, are you willing to change your mindset so that you stay enthused about the change? 

 Can you look at change as an opportunity for personal growth?  Can you get enthused about substituting your behaviors?  Can you create a positive structure to support the new paradigm?  Whenever you embark on change you need to meet it with enthusiasm and energy.  If you go into it with a negative outlook it will sabotage your long-term success.   Altering your mindset is paramount to creating change. 

 Your homework this week is to think of one small change you would like to make in your life.  Then, find some quiet time and ask yourself the following:

Am I ready to change?

Am I willing to do what it takes to make the change happen?

Am I ready to look at it with a positive attitude, focusing on the energy and excitement that it can generate?

If you can't answer those three questions affirmatively, you may not be ready to change.  Don't put the cart before the horse. Although wanting to change is a prerequisite for being able to make the very important behavioral changes; assessing whether you are really ready to do what it takes is essential for success.

 Change is exciting so make sure you view it with enthusiasm to increase your sense of accomplishment!

Business Spotlight: Carol The Coach

Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW, PCC, CSAT, CCPS is both a psychotherapist and a life coach in Indianapolis. She has worked in the field for over 39 years and made it her mission to educate and inspire people to create the life they deserve. After doing psychotherapy primarily with children, families, couples and individuals, she decided that she wanted to reach people on a larger level and find ways to connect to people that went beyond the therapy office. She secured a column with the Indianapolis Star and had over 800,000 readers who looked forward to her Carol the Coach column for over five years. Her column preceded her three radio call in shows on WXNT and WIBC for over 5 years. Her last show, Sex, Love and Relationships on Saturday night kept the Indianapolis community tuned in to how they could improve their relationships by tweaking their relationship behaviors. She jokingly says that she considers herself the "resident psychotherapist and life coach" for the Indianapolis community. "I love interacting with people who may not have the resources to seek out a therapist/coach but can email or call me on the air and get advice that can change their life!”

Soon everybody knew Carol as Carol the Coach. When asked about her profession she tells people "I have the best job in the world! I am a psychotherapist, speaker, radio talk show host, author, and personal life coach. Early on in my life I learned that my passion was to help people and educate them about their own potential and I have spent a lifetime getting to do that."

She owns a company called Strategic Therapies and Coaching. Providing both mental health and personal life coaching which assists clients in changing their lives from the inside out. She teaches a unique blend of skill sets that transforms people into who they want to be. Psychotherapy typically focuses on what people need to heal most often from their childhood while life coaching teaches them how they can take their life to the next level. She explains that often times people need to process and work through their childhood wounds and release them so that they can transform their life. "After the wounds are healed, I can help them to actualize their potential! I get to be a part of the whole transformation which is so gratifying and rewarding."

Carol knows how important it is to have faith and trust in both the psychotherapy and life coaching process. She's worked with thousands of people and has run a variety of groups including women's empowerment groups, cognitive behavioral groups, self esteem groups, men's groups, and sexual addiction groups. Her specialty includes women's issues, anxiety management, depression, sexual abuse, marital therapy, and now she is the only certified sexual addictions therapist in the Indianapolis area. Carol is always looking for a way to reinvent herself. She assesses what the community needs and goes after the certifications and training to become a specialist.

Carol is available for consultation at her office located at 3815 River Crossing Pkwy., Suite 100, Indianapolis, IN 46240. You can reach her at 317-847-2244 or you can email her at carol@carolthecoach.com Go to her website at Carolthecoach.com and read the library of articles she has written on self-improvement and mental health. You can also watch her monthly on WTHR's Community Focus at noon. You can also see Carol on her monthly Fox 59 Morning Show where she shares her life changing tips to making your life happen. Go to her carolthecoach FB fan page to see her monthly segments.

Carol wants you to know that you always "have a resident psychotherapist and life coach" right at your fingertips. She welcomes your emails and your questions. She considers it a privilege to serve you!