Are you a woman who doesn’t have a clear vision of what you want your life to be like?
So few women actually know how to take a dream, set goals, and then create a plan to accomplish that dream.
Girls are encouraged to dream about the future, they are told they can get an education, and live a meaningful life. But as they begin to create a life; family, religious and societal norms pressure them into service to their jobs, to their families, partners and children. Yes participation in all those areas of life is important, but many times women don’t know how to balance other’s needs with needs of their own. Guilt ensues and your own needs are long forgotten.
Women are taught throughout their lives that their dreams aren’t as important as meeting everyone else’s needs and in fact it is selfish to put themselves first. It’s so tragic because when a woman is fulfilled she reaches her true potential and everyone’s needs are exponentially met.
Here are some small steps to start understanding your needs and reigniting your inner radiance:
1. List what’s stopping you
List what you put off because you: don’t have the money, don’t have the time, can’t find someone to watch the kids, etc. Don’t put anything on your list that benefits anyone else. This list is about YOU - your wants, your desires, and your dreams. This is about you being selfish. Yes, selfish.
2. Ink it
Write down some of your childhood dreams or the dreams that are lingering in your recent memories. These would be the “that would be so nice…” kind of dreams or the “I would love to do that…” kind of dreams. Don’t forget the “I could never do that…” dreams that you’ve tossed aside as well.
3. The one thing
Just choose one thing that you want to do. Start making some notes on what it will take to reach that goal. For example, we will use “lose 15 pounds” as a quick example. How would you go about doing that?
Keep a dream journal. Example to start with “I am at my ideal weight by June 15, this is my action plan.”
Increase your physical activity.
Learn about different foods; what to minimize and what to include in your diet and prepare your menu for the week.
Break down your larger goal of 15 pounds into smaller increments.
Realize that the 15 pounds isn’t a destination; your focus is on the journey to reach the goal.
Start building your support network of like-minded cheerleaders.
The point here is to take any dream or task and start breaking it down into actionable steps. You can apply this same formula to increasing your income, starting your dream job, having a fulfilling relationship, or ditching a bad habit.
4. Be creative
Start brainstorming and writing notes about how you are going to make those dreams a reality. The words “no way”, “can’t”, “shouldn’t”, “if”, “but” have no place in your journaling.
These are some of the first steps to help you awaken what you have left dormant in your heart and life. You don’t need to see the whole staircase; you just need to make that first step up. Go for it!