Business Women Connect: We Get What We Expect

You become what you think about... the powerful “secret” of the Universe. We are creative Beings, though many tend to simply be reactive to what shows up in their lives. Many people, to avoid disappointment and rejection, will tend to shy away from expectations and believe that expectation is a breeding ground for resentment.

The reality is in life we often do get what we hope for, what we expect or how we set our attitude - our mindset... I looked up the definition of Hope: 1. (Noun) – a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. 2. (Noun) – a feeling of trust. 3. (Verb) – want something to happen or be the case.

Interesting that even Mr. Webster uses Expectation within the definition of Hope. So, how can we have Hope without a degree of Expectation? Or, perhaps is expectations more focused on people?

If we expect something good, it has a way of showing up. If we expect something bad, it too has a way of showing up.

It reminds me of a story I heard about a wise clerk who worked at a convenience store in a small town in the mid-west.

One day, a stranger walked in, picked up some bread and milk, and made his way to the cash register.
“New to town?” the clerk asked.

“Yep. Just moved here with my family,” the stranger replied.

“Well, then let me be the first to welcome you,” the clerk offered, extending his hand.

“Thanks,” the stranger said as he shook it. “Say, what are the people like in this town?”

“Well … what were they like in the town you just left?” the clerk queried.

“Oh, they were fantastic,” the stranger replied. “Friendly, upbeat, and generous. We hated to leave.”

“I know what you mean,” the clerk nodded. “I think that’s pretty much what you’ll find here, too.”

A few days later, another stranger walked into the convenience store. Like the first, he picked up a few staples and headed to the cash register.

The same clerk asked, “New to town?”

“Yes,” the stranger mumbled. “Just arrived.”

Following the same track, the clerk smiled and extended his hand. “Let me be the first to welcome you!”
The stranger took his hand reluctantly, frowned, and quickly looked down. “So what are the people like in this town?”

“Well … what were they like in the town you lived in last?” the clerk queried.

“Not great,” he stammered. “They were cold, aloof, and selfish. We were glad to get out of there.” He looked up at the clerk.

“I know what you mean,” the clerk affirmed. “I’m afraid that’s probably what you’ll find here, too.”

If it’s true that we get what we expect, it’s worth noticing our thoughts, attitude and expectations—and shifting them toward a more positive outcome.

Think negative or think positive, it’s a choice and a process. Positive thinking is a learned self-discipline that must be studied and practiced every day. Invest your time in positive people, doing positive things to grow your mind.b