Last month we talked about how frightening it can be when your life feels out of control. Life can feel so cumbersome and overwhelming when you are in a job you don't like, or if you are rearing a difficult kid who is making poor decisions, or when you are dealing with a spouse who is non-communicative or isolated. You know the scenario, you believe that you have done everything possible to activate a positive outcome but your drug addicted child who has been through treatment seems to have gotten nothing out of the treatment. Or your disengaged husband refuses to go to church or counseling despite your neutral requests or your badgering. Maybe you hate your job and you have sent out over 30 resumes and you are not even getting responses back. You have paid for career counseling, you have networked and shared with all your friends and family what you would like in a new job but it is as if the economy has stifled you from being able to go after your dreams.
It may feel like you have very few options when life becomes that stressful. Maybe you have tried everything and literally it seems like nothing is working for you . This is often when I ask women to practice reframing and faith. When nothing seems to be working you need to continue to create action plans but inevitably you also need to increase belief that things are working out exactly the way it was intended and you need to remind yourself how you might be growing stronger and how you might continue to practice having more faith.
Think about a stressful situation that you are currently facing in your own life. Perhaps you have tried everything to turn
it around or to make it better to no avail. These kind of circumstances call for drastic measures and the drastic measure is to practice surrender and faith. Think about it.....how would your life be different if you emanated faith that things were going to work out for the best no matter what the issues. You actually walked around telling yourself that it was all going to work out because you believe that you have done everything possible and now you are going to practice the greatest of spiritual practices by having faith that everything that happens has a purpose and that purpose serves a higher good for the people who are struggling. That really can take some practice to put that into place and let go of the feelings and the anxiety that accompanies unchartered territories. Instead of going into the normal attitude of nothing ever works out for me or life is too darn hard and I am tired of the struggle...you move into a shift of belief in three powerful tools.
Surrender: When you know you have done everything, you get to take a step back and just breathe and believe that you are exactly where you need to be.
Faith: This involves having the PMA (positive mental attitude) that things are going to work out for the best.
Reframing: Remind yourself that you ARE growing stronger and this will teach you something about yourself that you need to learn.
Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW PCC is a psychotherapist and personal life coach. She does motivational speaking and empowerment trainings locally and nationally. To find out more about her services--contact her at www.carolthecoach.com or call her at 317 218-3479. You can watch Carol the Coach segments on WTHR’s Channel 13 Wednesdays @ 12:50PM.