Carol the Coach: Nerve Cells That Fire Together Wire Together---The Brain Science Behind Change

People come into the office wanting to change but not believing that they can. My job is to show them that the single most important thing that they can do is to shape how they choose to think. In other words, what you focus your attention on creates a palette for your life. Your biology does not define you! Your reality becomes a reflection of your consciousness. You can modify or change the fabric of who you are the minute you change your thoughts.

Every time you learn something new you make a new synaptic connection. New thoughts can lead to a new choice which leads to a new behavior which leads to a new emotion which creates a new experience which then affects your power in your environment. Not only have you changed the circuitry of your brain but it also means that the energy that you put out in the world will reflect more positivity and success. Words are power and what you say to yourself affects everything!

Your brain is the change agent. The thoughts that you experience are the foundation for who you want to be. Thoughts are the language of the brain and it formulates how you process the world. The body is the unconscious mind... it does not know the difference between what you are experiencing or the feelings that tell the body that it is real therefore you have the capability to make it your reality. In neurological terms your thoughts are a community of neurons which create a synaptic network. When the thoughts merge with feelings they create a reality. If you want to create a new personal reality you need to focus on what you are thinking and assess whether that thought is helpful to who you are and if it is not then you need to find a way to change your thoughts. When you do that repeatedly, you alter your brain chemistry and your neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity means that your brain is amenable to change but you have to exercise it in a way that stretches it over and over again so that it makes new neuropathways that become your new reality.

Most people get locked into their thoughts...60 or 70,000 thoughts a day and most of those thoughts are repeated every single day which produces the same fears, anxieties and feelings. These emotions become part of your personality and you may start saying 1 of the following to yourself:

1. I am plagued with anxiety.
2. I really don't like people.
3. I am just prone to anger.

Well as you continue to have the thoughts, you take on that persona which forms how you relate to yourself and others. It is possible through mindfulness and cognitive behavioral change to actively say:

1. I have control of my anxiety and can change my thoughts into feeling hopeful about the future.
2. I am capable of finding one thing that I like about that person.
3. I can notice the anger and change it to mild irritation.

When you change your thoughts, it affects your current day experience and you have created a new law of association which affects your brain neuropathways hence you are a new and improved human being!

Your personality creates your personal reality and who you are is based on how you think, feel and what you believe. This means that you have the power to shape your destiny and it doesn't get better than that!

Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW PCC is a psychotherapist and personal life coach. She does motivational speaking and empowerment trainings locally and nationally. To find out more about her services–contact her at or call her at 317 218-3479. You can watch Carol the Coach segments on WTHR’s Channel 13 Wednesdays @ 12:50PM.