Carol the Coach: What Is Your Purpose?

If I had one wish for you in 2013 it would be that you would find ways to meet your physical, social, emotional, intellectual and spiritual needs. Realistically, it may be difficult to diligently attend to each need. A single mother may have less time to meet her intellectual needs if she is working two jobs. An introvert may have trouble increasing his social needs because of his shyness or discomfort being around people. It is important for you to familiarize yourself with your basic needs and then to assess whether there is room for improvement.

As you address your needs, it is important to consider your purpose. Each person was put on this earth to make a difference. This does not require accomplishing monumental feats. It entails paying attention to the special gifts that you can offer to your family, work, or community. The gifts may seem ordinary to you but typically there are others that will tell you that you possess a talent or skill that affects them in a positive way. Perhaps you are a mom who has a real knack for playing with your children. You might be a natural born leader who has special skills in mediation when things get tough at work. You may be a church member who brings doughnuts to share with the kids after the service. All the children recognize you as the “doughnut lady” which automatically makes you and the kids smile.

There is no purpose too large or too small. It’s about making the lives of others a little easier which brings you that sense of purpose. As you look at your life, decide what brings you the most joy. Things that bring you joy or passion are typically in direct alignment with your purpose.

  • Do you enjoy leadership?
  • Being with children?
  • Spending time with animals?
  • Do you enjoy sewing, cooking, fishing or fitness?
  • Is there a way to incorporate your passion or purpose to enhance the lives of others?

Now I would suspect that as you are reading this column, there is something that has tugged at your heart and reminded you of that special something that you can offer the world. Your assignment for this month is to think of 20 things that bring you joy. Once you have made your list, ask yourself is there a way to spread the joy?

  • Do you love sharing a positive attitude with others? Join the Optimist’s Club and surround yourself with others like you.
  • Do you love animals? Get on the Web and look for opportunities to volunteer at the Humane Society.
  • Do you love speaking to others? Write an inspiring speech and contact your local Rotary or Kiwanis club and ask to present it during their monthly meetings.
  • Do you love sewing? Designate a regular time and create a charity project to donate to your local hospital.

When you are in direct alignment with your purpose, you connect with others who will act as conduits for your mission. People will help you with your purpose when you recognize, and manifest it. As you review your life, your needs, and your sense of purpose, take some time and reflect on what you have to give to the world. Spend some time deciding how you can fulfill that need in small ways and watch how your purpose evolves over time.

Don't underestimate your power. Use 2013 to spread the joy you feel from making a difference.

Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW PCC is a psychotherapist and personal life coach. She does motivational speaking and empowerment trainings locally and nationally. To find out more about her services--contact her at or call her at 317 218-3479. You can watch Carol the Coach segments on WTHR’s Channel 13 Wednesdays @ 12:50PM.