Carol the Coach: Be Gentle With Your Thoughts

The human mind requires positive thoughts if you are to grow and expand into your potentiality.  Very few people naturally possess the art of looking at things with a positive spin.  More often than not, being positive and building yourself up requires fortitude and discipline.  Developing the skill of positive self-talk is critical to good self-esteem, but it doesn’t just happen.  One must work at it diligently.  

Dr. Wayne Dyer in his book The Power of Intention advocates that when we are in alignment with what God or our source wants for us, we can accomplish great things.  To be able to implement our mission in life requires a belief in our potential.  He states that our thoughts create a cause and effect relationship in the world … if we think from a scarcity mindset it will generate scarcity.  How many times have you said:  “I’m not smart enough to pull that off” or  “I don’t have enough money to make that happen?  When you manifest these thoughts, you project that energy which reinforces that you don’t have the ability, the money, or the intelligence to make your thoughts a reality.  

How would your confidence be affected if you participated in daily activities or exercises that primed you for greatness no matter what goals you were seeking?  Can you visualize only saying positive thoughts to yourself?  

Could you practice restating every negative statement that you made during a day?

Perhaps you are a person who has wanted to move in a different direction, but your fears and anxieties keep you locked in the same old routine.  What would happen if you spent a month repeating statements that affirmed your desire for a career change, relocation, or a move to a different part of the country?  What if you said, “I am in the process of discovering my perfect job” or “I am well suited to do a variety of things and believe that there are many opportunities waiting for me?”  Would it motivate you to take the plunge and live life to its fullest?

When something tugs at your heart, it’s important to honor it and give yourself permission to find ways to actualize it.  When you pursue your passion, doors will open to create a momentum, but the first ingredient in making that happen is to think positively.  That requires feeding internal dialogue that supports your decisions.  

People have the choice to see things positively or they can think things negatively. They have a choice to be self-critical or they can appreciate the situation and what it teaches them. They can look at life from a position of scarcity or abundance. 

I tend to believe that you will manifest success and happiness if you approach from the standpoint of gratitude and abundance….It may be human nature to operate from a “what could go wrong” or “I am not good enough to make that happen” attitude. It takes discipline to maintain a positive take on life. The reward is that your life becomes easier to manage once you practice this approach. Learning to use kinder, gentler thoughts will create a sense of mastery which will feed your success.

Homework assignment:  

1.    Assess an area where you lack confidence.
2.    Look for opportunities to change your internal dialogue. 
3.    Each time you find yourself operating on negativity and scarcity, stop yourself.  
4.    Restate the belief in positive terms.
5.    Make the commitment for 90 days.
6.    Watch for the positive changes that accompany your life.

Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW PCC is a psychotherapist and personal life coach. SHe does motivational speaking and empowerment trainings locally and nationally. To find out more about her services, contact her at or call her at 317-218-3479. You can watch Carol the Coach segments on WTHR's Channel 13 Wednesdays at 12:50PM.