How Goal Setting Actually Works

You only see, experience and get what you look for. If you don’t know what to look for, you certainly won’t get it.

By our very nature, we are goal-seeking creatures. Your brain tries to align your outer world with what you are seeing and experiencing in your inner world. When you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them.

This is actually how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not some mysterious, esoteric voodoo, as it is sometimes described. It’s far simpler and more practical than that.

We are surrounded by billions of visual, audio and physical messages each day. To keep ourselves from going crazy, we ignore 99% of them. You only really see, hear or experience those you focus your mind on.

Make sense? It’s not mysterious at all; it’s actually quite logical. Whatever your mind is thinking on the inside is what it will pay attention to on the outside. All of a sudden, you ‘see’ it.

Get a clear vision of your passions and dreams then set goals to achieve those dreams. When you define your goals, you give your brain something to focus and look for.

10-Point Checklist for Goal Setting

  1. Don't Just Think It -- Ink It!The weakest ink is stronger than the strongest mind. Unless you write your goals, they are often lost in the shuffle and excitement of new problems, challenges and decisions.
  2. Suspend Reality -- If you had every skill, resource or ability in the world, what would you do? What would you set out to accomplish? Don't filter, qualify or judge. Just let your thoughts flow. You’re not committing at this point, just brainstorming - so just go for it!
  3. Go BIG! Size DOES matter...Bigger is Better! LOL! Your mind doesn't care about the size of your goals. If you set little goals you'll achieve little goals, set big goals - achieve big goals! Give yourself permission to dream big! Scripture says, "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you."
  4. Speak Positive -- Decide what you want to move toward, not move away from, and speak in those terms. Example:"I am my ideal weight of 125 lbs. by June 1," vs. "I want to lose 20 lbs." or "I have a positive net worth of $1 million by August next year," vs. "I want to get out of debt."
  5. State in the "I am" -- Make statements in the first person present, "I am X", vs. "I want X." Your creative power will go to work on producing what you have declared to be true. 
  6. Your Goals -- Many people set goals that they think they "should", rather than what they truly want for themselves.
  7. Make Sure Your Goals Align With Your Values -- Goals must fit your own values, standards and desires.
  8. Don't Be Afraid to Fight -- One of the best days of your life can be the day you find your fight. What are you willing to fight for?
  9. Abandon Limiting Beliefs -- What self-talk, false beliefs and ideas are holding you back? Are you willing to overcome and grow
  10. Fear Not -- Reflect on the powerful quote by Marianne Williamson “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure...”

Shelly Aristizabal is the author of This Is Your Year to Design & Live the Life of Your Dreams, a leader in the Community Commerce Industry, Motivational Speaker and New President of Business Women Connect. Visit for details on our upcoming events in the Indianapolis area!