How to Be Positive in a Negative World

“Your destiny is to fulfill those things upon which you focus most intently. So choose to keep your focus on that which is truly magnificent, beautiful, uplifting and joyful. Your life is always moving toward something.” ~ Ralph Marston

Do you ever notice how easy it is to mistake the negative thoughts, energies and beliefs of those around you as your own? And how easy it is to allow these toxic and unhealthy energies to come into your life, influencing the way you think, the way you feel and the way you perceive yourself and the world around you?

When you are in a negative, toxic and unhealthy environment, a place where people are sad, anxious, dwelling in fear and constantly complaining about everything and everyone, you tend to feel a heavy energy pressing down on you, making you feel uncomfortable and very unhappy. But if you change the environment, to a place of peace, positivity, chances are that you will start to feel full of life and energy. Why? Because energy is contagious, and we tend to adapt our own energy to the energy of the things, places, people and experiences that we encounter.

I consider myself a very happy, cheerful and positive person. Someone who is very aware of the thoughts she thinks and the beliefs she holds. And even though I am purifying and taking good care of my mind, heart, body and soul, I still have moments when I dwell in fear, and I still have moments when I think toxic thoughts, thoughts that I know for sure that are not mine. I still have moments when all kind of insecurities, scarcity thoughts and doubts take over me. But when I step back from my own mind, taking a closer look at everything that I am going through – all my moods, thoughts, energies and behaviors, I realize that many of the thoughts I am thinking and many of the feelings I am feeling are not even mine. 

When you are not fully present in your day to day life, and when you allow your mind to wonder from place to place, spending too much time dwelling on thoughts about the past and future, but not enough time being in the present moment, that’s when you become an easy prey to negativity.

It’s true that there’s a lot of negativity, fear, doubt, insecurity present in this world – in our homes, in our schools, the places we work, in our relationships, in our communities, and at times, in ourselves. But it’s also true that if we become fully present, if we make a conscious decision not to allow this negativity to contaminate us and our lives, all this negativity will no longer have any power over us.

If there’s negativity in the world around you and you come face to face with it, don’t be scared. Don’t worry. Don’t panic. Don’t complain, and don’t shrink because of it. Instead, take a few steps back and remind yourself that you, not events, people, places or things, have the power to make you happy or unhappy today. That you, not the negative energy that is present in the world around, have control over your own thoughts, feelings and emotions. Always remember, you are way bigger than all your fears, all your doubts, all your problems, all your insecurities, and you are way bigger than all the negativity that is present all around you, so just behave accordingly.

Shelly Aristizabal is the author of This Is Your Year to Design & Live the Life of Your Dreams, a leader in the Community Commerce Industry, Motivational Speaker and New President of Business Women Connect. Visit for details on our upcoming events in the Indianapolis area!